How to Take Responsibility & Stop Blaming Others (Even if Others are to Blame)

You know you are not accepting personal responsibility if you do the opposite: blame others for your problems, life situation, hardships, character flaws, and just about everything and anything else. Rather than accepting the "blame" or responsibility for how your life is, you make excuses. Everything and anybody is to blame -- except yourself.

Sound familiar? You may be blaming others more than you think. Have you ever:

-Blamed your alarm clock for being late to class?

-Blamed your friends for not waking you up in the morning?

-Blamed your lecturer because did not let you pass in the exam?

People who take responsibility, on the other hand, would have handled these situations as follows:

-Admitted that they should have left earlier for their class.

-Acknowledged that, they should put an effort to wake up in the morning without need to rely on the others.

-Accepted that no one is to be blamed for the failure, other than themselves.

When you constantly blame others, view yourself as a victim and feel others are causing all of your hardships, you inevitably surround yourself with anger, resentment and negative thoughts -- all of which are surefire ways to bring on fatigue, sadness, stress and even chronic disease.

Blaming Others Brings on Chronic Stress

Harboring negative emotions and anger means you are living with chronic stress, the type that eats away at you little by little. Chronic stress is the type of stress that has been linked to fatigue, back pain, stomach upset and headaches, along with numerous more serious illnesses, including:

-Heart disease

-Cancer

-Depression

-Autoimmune diseases

-Reproductive problems

How to Take Responsibility, Stop Blaming Others and Start Living Your Life

Everyone blames someone else at one time or another. Nobody's perfect.And it very well may be, but the key to living a long and happy life is knowing how to accept personal responsibility and not blame others -- even when it may be their fault. This does not mean you have to go through life letting others walk all over you. On the contrary, accepting personal responsibility means you have to take the high road and be the bigger person, even when it's hard.
Apologize when you're wrong (this means first accepting that you're not always right). Here's how :

-Admit when you've made a mistake.

-Learn to forgive.

-Be open to the ideas and opinions of others.

-Identify the things in your life that you are not happy about, and do something to change them.

-Practice saying, "I am responsible." Eventually, you will start to believe it.

-Take smart risks, and realize that you are responsible for the outcomes.

-Adopt a positive outlook on life (assume that things will go your way).

-Recognize and embrace your own shortcomings, and ask others for help when you need it.

This article was taken from http://www.SixWise.com/