How to Take Responsibility & Stop Blaming Others (Even if Others are to Blame)

You know you are not accepting personal responsibility if you do the opposite: blame others for your problems, life situation, hardships, character flaws, and just about everything and anything else. Rather than accepting the "blame" or responsibility for how your life is, you make excuses. Everything and anybody is to blame -- except yourself.

Sound familiar? You may be blaming others more than you think. Have you ever:

-Blamed your alarm clock for being late to class?

-Blamed your friends for not waking you up in the morning?

-Blamed your lecturer because did not let you pass in the exam?

People who take responsibility, on the other hand, would have handled these situations as follows:

-Admitted that they should have left earlier for their class.

-Acknowledged that, they should put an effort to wake up in the morning without need to rely on the others.

-Accepted that no one is to be blamed for the failure, other than themselves.

When you constantly blame others, view yourself as a victim and feel others are causing all of your hardships, you inevitably surround yourself with anger, resentment and negative thoughts -- all of which are surefire ways to bring on fatigue, sadness, stress and even chronic disease.

Blaming Others Brings on Chronic Stress

Harboring negative emotions and anger means you are living with chronic stress, the type that eats away at you little by little. Chronic stress is the type of stress that has been linked to fatigue, back pain, stomach upset and headaches, along with numerous more serious illnesses, including:

-Heart disease

-Cancer

-Depression

-Autoimmune diseases

-Reproductive problems

How to Take Responsibility, Stop Blaming Others and Start Living Your Life

Everyone blames someone else at one time or another. Nobody's perfect.And it very well may be, but the key to living a long and happy life is knowing how to accept personal responsibility and not blame others -- even when it may be their fault. This does not mean you have to go through life letting others walk all over you. On the contrary, accepting personal responsibility means you have to take the high road and be the bigger person, even when it's hard.
Apologize when you're wrong (this means first accepting that you're not always right). Here's how :

-Admit when you've made a mistake.

-Learn to forgive.

-Be open to the ideas and opinions of others.

-Identify the things in your life that you are not happy about, and do something to change them.

-Practice saying, "I am responsible." Eventually, you will start to believe it.

-Take smart risks, and realize that you are responsible for the outcomes.

-Adopt a positive outlook on life (assume that things will go your way).

-Recognize and embrace your own shortcomings, and ask others for help when you need it.

This article was taken from http://www.SixWise.com/

KeNaPe La JaDi SuMe Ni???? Haish.....

JANGAN MENGELUH !!!!!


Kita mungkin selalu tertanya2 ttg perkara yang berlaku pada kita..

Mungkin kite tidak sedar, Al-Quran sudah pun menyediakan jawapan baginya..cuma kita je yang tidak mengkaji..ikuti sorotan monolog antara kite and QURAN...zaaass.....



KITA BERTANYA : APESAL AKU KENA UJI?
QURAN MENJAWAB:

"Apakah manusia itu mengira bahawa mereka dibiarkan saja mengatakan; "Kami telah beriman," ("I am full of faith to Allah") sedangkan mereka tidak diuji?
Dan sesungguhnya Kami telah menguji org2 yg sebelum mereka, maka sesungguhnya Allah mengetahui org2 yg benar dan, sesungguhnya Dia mengetahui org2 yg dusta."

(AL-ANKABUT 2-3)

So, ALLAH nak test kite, nak tgk kite ni btol2 beriman ke tidak..ala, mcm seminar la, nak test studi ke x?
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KITA BERTANYA : NAPE EK AKU TAK PENAH DAPAT APA YG AKU
IDAM-IDAMKAN?
QURAN ANSWERS :


"Boleh jadi kamu membenci sesuatu padahal ia amat baik bagimu, dan boleh jadi pula kamu menyukai sesuatu, padahal ia amat buruk bagimu, Allah mengetahui sedang kamu tidak mengetahui."

(Surah Al-Baqarah ayat 216)

Tu la, xsemua benda yang kite suke, kite nak, baik utk kite, kadang2 benda tu bawa mudarat, sbb tu ALLAH xbagi, ALLAH lg tau ttg diri kite berbanding diri kite sendiri..
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KITA BERTANYA : NAPE AKU KENA UJI SEBERAT NI?? ADUSH..
QURAN MENJAWAB :

"Allah tidak membebani seseorang itu melainkan sesuai dengan kesanggupannya."

(Surah Al-Baqarah ayat 286 )

Setiap ujian yg ALLAH timpakan kat kite, ALLAH dah tau, kite mesti dpt atasinya, ALLAH knows our limits..
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KITA BERTANYA : KENAPA RASA FRUST? (KECEWANYE AKU...)
QURAN MENJAWAB


"Jgnlah kamu bersikap lemah, dan jgnlah pula kamu bersedih hati, padahal kamulah org2 yg paling tinggi darjatnya, jika kamu org2 yg beriman."

(Surah Al-Imran ayat 139 )

Walaupun kite diuji oleh ALLAH, kite jgn sedih. Tu sume, penghapus dosa, penambah pahala..Sahabat nabi dulu, sedih bila tak diuji..kite terbalik plak..haish..pening2..
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KITA BERTANYA : BAGAIMANA HARUS AKU MENGHADAPINYA?
QURAN MENJAWAB :


"Wahai orang-orang yang beriman! Bersabarlah kamu,dan kuatkanlah kesabaran kamu lebih daripada kesabaran musuh, di medan perjuangan), dan bersedialah serta bertaqwalah kamu kepada Allah supaya, kamu berjaya."

kalau korg tgk ayat tu btol2, ade lafaz taukid (penegasan). ALLAH suh sabar, and perkuatkan kesabaran..so ape lagi..sabo sudey..ALLAH tidak menzalimi hamba2nya..kite je yg slalu zalimi geng2 kite..

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KITA BERTANYA : BAGAIMANA HARUS AKU MENGHADAPINYA?
QURAN MENJAWAB :



"Dan mintalah pertolongan (kepada Allah) dengan jalan sabar dan mengerjakan sembahyang; dan sesungguhnya sembahyang itu amatlah berat kecuali kepada orang-orang yang khusyuk"

(Surah Al-Baqarah ayat 45)

tgk, dlm ayat ni, sekali lagi ALLAH suh kite sabar..fa sobron jamil..(maka kesabaran itu cantik..)..dan solat minta tlg dari ALLAH...kite paling dekat dgn ALLAH bila kite sujud menghadapNYA..
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KITA BERTANYA : APA YANG AKU DAPAT DRPD SEMUA INI?
QURAN JAWAPAN :


"Mereka memperoleh apa yang mereka kehendaki di sisi Tuhannya. Demikianlah balasan bagi orang yang berbuat baik"
(Surah Az-Zumar ayat 34)

kite buat baik ngn manusia, jaga hubungan ngn ALLAH,sesama makhluk, ape yg kite minta sume ALLAH nak bagi..baikkan ALLAH ngn kite???..tp kite slalu jgk lupa kat DIA..sedihnye...
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KITA BERTANYA : AKU KENA BERGANTUNG KAT SAPE NIH? I AM LOST
QURAN MENJAWAB :


"Cukuplah Allah bagiku, tidak ada Tuhan selain dari Nya. Hanya kepadaNya aku bertawakkal."
(Surah At-Taubah ayat 129 )

Jadikan ALLAH sbgai tempat kite berserah..ayat ni pun dah clear dah..xyah hurai panjang2..
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KITA BERKATA : AKU TAK DAPAT TAHAN!!!waaaaaaaa.....
QURAN MENJAWAB :

"... ..dan jgnlah kamu berputus asa dr rahmat Allah. Sesungguhnya tiada berputus asa dr rahmat Allah melainkan kaum yg kafir."
(Surah Yusuf ayat 12)

isk2..jgn2..jangan sekali2 kite berputus asa..bahaya tu..nauzubillah...

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artikel ni sumbangan Hamdan. Tapi memandangkan die busy, so I took over~ Terima kasih Hamdan!